Dealing with Emotionally Immature People
“There is no adult in the realm of emotions; when you are angry you behave like child, when you feel lonely you behave like a child, when you become exaggeratedly happy you behave like a child. When you feel love you behave like a child, when you feel not loved you behave like child.”
Question: How to handle immaturity particularly in close relationship, however, without hurting them.
Answer: If you cannot handle the immaturity of people around you that becomes your immaturity. You can call yourself matured only when you can handle the immaturity of other people, an immaturity of other people I have said this so many times somehow see the world as a world of children, and it is true, right from the aged grandpas, to the just born children in the realm of emotions we are all children.
There is no adult in the realm of emotions, when you are angry you behave like child, when you feel lonely you behave like a child, when you become exaggeratedly happy you behave like a child.
When you feel love you behave like a child, when you feel not loved you behave like child, when you exaggeratedly confident you start throwing this confidence around so much that it appears arrogance to the world and when you are nervous you become so explicit about your nervousness but that you sound so diffident to the world so in the realm of emotions not just the world including you everybody is a child, there are no adults in the realm of emotions so once we understand this then we will understand that most of the immaturity that we deal with the world is in their inability to deal with themselves when they are emotional and your inability to deal with them when you become emotional about their emotions so once you understand this, it’s not that that can be learned from books, it’s not that that can be learned out of my answers you grow in experiences you understand okay, if I can let this emotions to settle down in a few minutes there will be no immaturity in that person, matured people in the sway of emotions come up with immature behavior, so we are not dealing with an matured person…you are only dealing with an immature behavior, matured people in the sway of emotions come up with immature behavior.
So all that is required is for some time underplay yourself when there is an immature behavior and when the emotions settle down you will again see the matured person relating to you and it becomes much easier, more importantly understand when you become emotional you also start exhibiting a lot of immature behavior, so oneself mastery that is required that you don’t end up hurting key relationship in life, close relationships in life because of the proximity that we have with our loved once all of you think people we love the most are the people we hurt the most, because people we love the most have to suffer the brunt of our emotions the maximum and thereby you immature behavior the maximum so the more and more you developed the self mastery where no matter how matured you are when you become emotional immature behavior is going to express itself so if you can learn to hold yourself haven’t we learned in the sway of emotions abstain from action, abstain from decision making, wait for your emotions to settle down and then there will be lot of matured expressions from you, to a very large extent you will lesser and lesser hurt your love ones and more and more be a source of celebration in their live so when it comes to the world wait for their emotions to settle down and you will not be dealing with their immature behavior, when it comes to you progressively develop self mastery that when you are emotional abstain from action and decision making, wait for emotions to settle down and then we don’t have to say people will love the most are the people we hurt the most, instead you will grow into a person who can say people I love the most I give them opportunities to celebrate relationship the most.
